3.14.2006posted by Donovan at 3:28 PM
David DeAngelo is a leading dating advice expert based in the United States. He has applied various schools of thought, psychological theories and his own experiences and opinons in his "Double Your Dating" products. Originally a student of Ross Jeffries and using the nickname Sisonyph, DeAngelo's ideas were first widely published and publicized in the underground seduction newsletter called Cliff's List.
DeAngelo's commercial career began with the release of his first book "Double Your Dating" in 2001. Since then, he has released many products aimed at helping men become successful with women and dating.
According to DeAngelo, women do not feel attraction to men consciously, instead dating and forming romantic relationships with men to whom they are attracted unconsciously. Furthermore, while some believe that good looks are what attracts women to men, DeAngelo disagrees, arguing that physical features have very little to do with attraction. One of DeAngelo's favorite lines is: "Attraction isn't a choice".
Because most men are unfamiliar with what causes attraction according to DeAngelo, women dictate when and where relationships are formed. Furthermore, since attraction is unconscious, DeAngelo claims, attempting to appeal to women using reason will therefore be unsuccessful. DeAngelo implores men to become successful by taking charge and shifting the balance of power from women to themselves.
DeAngelo often uses simplified terms in his material to describe both "incorrect" and "desired" male behavior.
Some of these include:
The Inner Wuss: a character trait of men developed through time that causes them to become submissive around women in order for them to get the women's approval. DeAngelo claims that women prefer men who will stand up to them (see also: Nice guy syndrome).
Status: a perception of how important a person is to society. DeAngelo believes that most of status is determined by a man's actions, and that men should learn to communicate higher status as a means of attracting women. He claims that communicating higher status to a woman creates attraction.
Confidence: a loosely-defined term used to describe the outward reflection of men who have high status (see above). While some define the term as being happy with one's life and circumstances, DeAngelo uses it more often to describe those who may not be completely happy with their lives but are not rattled by unfortunate events and women's "tests".
Cocky and funny: describes a technique that involves making socially inappropriate, arrogant and humorous comments at certain times in a conversation.
Counterintuitive behavior: DeAngelo's description of some of his techniques to attract women, as they are the opposite of what most people think is attractive. Examples of such behavior include teasing a woman offhandedly and refusing to compliment her appearance.
Life changes: DeAngelo reiterates that the purpose of his programs is to effect a complete personality and lifestyle change among men that will help them achieve romantic success. He, and many of his followers, state that they disapprove of men who utilize his teachings for physical pleasure only.
Emulate the Successful: DeAngelo encourages the following and emulation of those successful with women. Interviews with those very successful (who have usually changed their dating lifes completely) are available for purchase.
posted by Donovan at 3:28 PM Dating Advice for Men