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Can You Approach Women Like Neil Strauss, Author of "The Game" Tonight?


posted by Donovan at 3:35 PM

neil strauss and girlfriend LisaNeil Strauss has just released The Game, have you gotten a chance to read it?

You haven't yet?

Bad, bad man. Especially seeing as you're interested in meeting women.

We'll I have read it. And guess what?

I want to share a secret I personally got from the writings of Neil Strauss author of "The Game".

You see, he let us all in on a little secret!

Have you ever tried to approach a woman, and just not known what to do?

Hell, YES! (Everyone says)

Well.. I have a suggestion that you can take (Or not), that has literally exploded my success with meeting and approaching women for the first time.

Would you like know what it is?


I'm not so sure.

I'll give you this tip, and then you'll run away, and not read my blog, and then who will be my friend?

Exactly. You see my point. Lucky I'm a nice guy though.

In the underground seduction community, you approach a woman with an "Opener".

An opener is just what you first say in the opening lines of talking to her. Hence, it's called an "Opener".

So I'll give you the simple and easy opener for approaching and meeting women. That can be used for a variety of situations.

Have you ever heard of Paris Hilton?

Hmmm... I'm sure you have. *Wink*

Here is a real field approach and opener taken straight from the Neil Strauss book "The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pick Up Artists". (From Section 7: Extract to a Seduction Location, Chapter 8, pg. 256)

"I got up, walked into the restaurant, and saw a hot blonde chick getting salsa. So I thought, "Salsa sounds good to me." I've been gearing my game up for this moment, and now it was time to take what I deserved. So I walked over to her side and pretended like I was just at the salsa bar by coincidence. I helped myself to some salsa, and then looked over my right shoulder at her and started the conversation with Style's [Neil Strauss] jealous girlfriend Opener.

Papa: Hey, I need a female opinion on something?
Girl: (Smiles and looks up) Okay.
Papa: Would you date a guy who was still friends with his ex-girlfriend?
Girl: Yeah. I think so. Sure.

I started to walk away, then turned back and continued the conversation.

Papa: Hmm. Actually, this is a two-part question.
Girl: (Smiles and giggles)
Papa: Imagine you were dating a guy who was still friends with his ex-girlfriend. And you were going to move in with him but he had a drawer with pictures of his ex-girlfriend – not nude pictures or anything, just regular pictures and some letters.
Girl: Ooh. I would so get rid of them. I would put them in a box.

I cut her off and continued with the opener.."

You were wondering who that girl was huh?

Well.. Yes, that girl was Paris Hilton.

Amazing isn't it?!

This ‘Jealous Girlfriend Opener' is common within the seduction community. And hundreds of pickup artists around the world use it now.

I can tell you are a person of originality. Someone who doesn't want to be ‘fake.'


I know of a book, which gives you a specific formula on how to make your own "Openers".

This book states: (pg 100)

"Opinion Openers are, for my money, the best type of Openers out there. This is because these types of Openers are engaging, do not telegraph interest, and can lead to some really great conversations.

The best way to engage someone for the first time is by asking their opinion on something. When doing so, you are able to get them to invest their own personal thoughts and feelings into your burgeoning conversation. And once that's invested, they are more likely to commit themselves to the interaction.

A good Opinion Opener can be anything that does not telegraph interest, while presenting options to your target that helps to encourage them to give and expand upon their opinion.."

That is just one part of the explanation and he later gives you a detailed way to create your own Opinion Openers.


So you understand the basic idea of what an Opinion Opener is, correct?

Well, what about a..

  • Advice Opener
  • Compliment Opener
  • Direct Opener
  • Drama Opener
  • Insult Opener
  • Joke Opener
  • Online Opener
  • Roleplay Opener
  • Situational Opener
  • Etc..
Throughout the course of his book, he breaks these Openers down for you, defines them, gives you examples of them, and even shows you the structure of each Opener so you'll know how to construct hundreds for your own personality and whichever situation you could possibly ever meet women in!


  • Walking up to any girl and getting her number
  • Creating an interesting and addictive conversation with a woman you just met
  • Eliminating your fear of rejection with women
This book is a must for ANY man who has a healthy sexual appetite for beautiful women.

Is that you?? Maybe.. (I hope so..)

I have referred my best friends to this book that have come to me for advice about approaching women. It is an essential resource for a man to have in his arsenal to attract any woman.

Sorry, I forgot to tell you the name.

Art of Approaching 2nd Edition by Thundercat.

Guess what else? There are plenty of other (not just Openers) easy-to-use techniques broken down in his book "Art of Approaching".

You'll love it. I promise.

Check out it out here.

After studying behavior for many years, I know one thing: If you don't make the decision to get this part of your life handled right now, there's a very very small chance that you're going to do anything about it in the future.

You know how they say that you can't tell someone how to get somewhere unless you've been there yourself? Well I've been there, and I'm going to show you the way. Think about it...

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posted by Donovan at 3:35 PM Dating Advice for Men


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9:47 AM, November 05, 2005  
Anonymous Patholos said...

Well, i gotta say. The book was awesome. I saw it more as an inspiration to begin further developing my game, i mean if Neil Strauss can revert from introverted writer with zero lady luck,then there's hope for me =)

Also its a bloody funny read. A more horny version of the fall of man, you might say.

Anyways, i just gotta brag a little. Had a HB8.5 last saturday, and i got the community to give my thanks to for that.


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WHAT! You're Afraid of Approaching Beautiful Women?


posted by Donovan at 12:20 PM

  • Are you such a wussy that you can’t even go up to a girl and get her number?
  • Are you so lame, that you can’t even go up to a woman, and simply start talking?
  • Are you so unsuccessful with women, that you need to look up stuff on the Internet?


Guess what… I was once like that.

I had things inside my own head that stopped me from successfully approaching women.

What’s yours? (Think about it… SERIOUSLY - STOP AND THINK)

Some of mine were:

  • She would say ‘No’ and it would destroy the courage I just had
  • She will start yelling out to everyone that you’re trying to rape her
  • She will call me a ‘loser’ and yell at me
  • Her boyfriend from ‘around the corner’ will come and beat me up

So what are yours? (Write them down.)

You need to handle those exact problems now (not later), or you will be confined to getting happy with your five-fingered girl friend. (Yeah, her!)

I’m going to let you in on a secret of mine.

When I first started out reading about this sort of stuff, I wanted some quick and easy ways to fix my game.

Guess what?

It doesn’t work that way. (Which I discovered) You have to change yourself. You have to become the man a really attractive woman would even want. Otherwise, she’ll find out, and she’ll leave you.

But you say, “How can she even choose, if I don’t even know if she’s interested?” or “How can she even choose, if I can’t even get her number, or talk to her?”

We’ll…. I’m going to share the best kept secret of approaching women with confidence and charisma. It’s straight out of Thundercat’s book “Art of Approaching”. It’s called:

The Eye Contact Test
Taken from “From Section 1, The Art of Body Language, Chapter 2, page 13”

I think you're really going to like this secret, because I'm going to share a little trick with you that I've developed that really makes it easy to meet a woman.

Too often, guys are simply too nervous to approach a girl because of the extreme amount of uncertainty involved. Think about it. What runs through your head when you want to meet a woman?

  • "Am I her type?"
  • "Does she have a boyfriend?"
  • "Will she find me attractive?"
  • "Maybe she's too busy to meet anyone."
  • "Will she be receptive to me talking to her?"

I'm sure you can think of a 100 more things that run through your mind when you see an approach opportunity come your way.

If you get scared or nervous when this happens, it's because of one thing:


You don't know how the girl you want to approach is going to respond! So your scared because the outcome MIGHT be negative!

Well, worry about this no more, because with this little trick I'm going to share with you, you'll never have to worry about a negative reaction again.

This little trick is so simple, ANYONE can do it! And it's a 100% fear free tactic.

We all know that eye contact is important, but something funny happens when we make eye contact with another person. We become COMPELLED to respond to them in some fashion. When it comes to women, you can use eye contact to find out if she's open to meeting you. In fact, in a way, she'll be opening YOU!

So here's what you do...

The next time you see a woman you want to meet, LOCK your eyes on her! Seriously, just stare at her eyes, even if she's not looking at you.

When people are out and about, they will usually look around to keep aware of their surroundings. This is an unconscious thing we all do. Eventually, the woman you're locking onto will look around to scan the area.

When she comes to you, her eyes will invariably meet yours, and you'll be locked in eye contact.

When that happens, simply SMILE at her.

If she smiles back, guess what? She's OPEN TO YOU MEETING HER. If she doesn't, then move on to someone who is.

And when she does smile back, say "Hi!" And if she responds, you're in! Go right into your opener.

I like to use this tactic in low-key situations, like grocery stores, coffee shops, book stores, etc. Even though it can work just as well in bars (as long as the light is high enough that she can actually SEE you!).

Often times, after you smile, the girl herself will say "Hi!" and then the rest is easy.

The next time you go out, do this to every woman you see. Lock your eyes onto them and see what happens. I guarantee you, you'll be surprised by the results.”

Did you like that?

  • It is easy and simple.
  • It works.
  • It was amazing.
  • It does wonders.

I love it, and even though I’m a “veteran” at this, I still use it. It’s one of the most powerful techniques there is.

I remember I did the exact technique to this cheerleader at my college. She was a beautiful 5'6 blonde, and I simply held eye-contact, then smiled, and she said exactly what the book said she would do...

She smiled back and said "Hi!".

It was the best feeling, especially since I was just reading it the night before.

Guess what else?

There are plenty of easy-to-use techniques broken down for the real world in his book “Art of Approaching”.

You’ll love it. I promise.


After studying behavior for many years, I know one thing: If you don't make the decision to get this part of your life handled right now, there's a very very small chance that you're going to do anything about it in the future.

You know how they say that you can't tell someone how to get somewhere unless you've been there yourself? Well I've been there, and I'm going to show you the way. Think about it...

Check out his e-Book here.

Keep it real. And come back regularly for more posts on this blog. I try to post new material almost everyday. Although if you need in-depth help (which you will need) click above.

To your success, do your part and I know it will come to you,


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posted by Donovan at 12:20 PM Dating Advice for Men


Anonymous 2cold132 said...

i red the book "The Game", and a lot of the things on it seemed as if it was common sense. I think it seemed like that because the book is meant for someone who has been completely sheltered from women. I was sheltered as a child until about the age of 18, but i always have been good with the ladies. Before I red the book I thought the only way you can get a girl is by making sure you are well put together. By that I mean you need to be looking dressing and smelling nice; although these things help i found you dont need to do all that to be able to pull a girl. The biggest thing they get from you is your vibe. If you have a confident vibe they will pick up on it. When i try to get a girl my success rate has only been stopped when i enter a group without any confidence and energy. If you are really bad with girls, (assuming you get the number and interact) be reactive until you analyze the females personality and find similarities with her. Make sure she sees that you are a good catch. I was going to let you know more about what i do and how i fused "The Game" and my natural game but i cant do that lol. Your best teacher about what girls like and what they respond to is your mother. My mother made me better with the ladies that is why i think that the game comes natural. Another helpful thing you can do if you are shy around beautiful girls are start talking to uglier ones and find out what works on them and work your way up. This book was great, interesting too, and it can be a fast read. This book helped me it made my game a lot better, Now i know what to do in different situations just by analyzing what is going on at the moment. This boo k gives you tools to use with the hands you were born with.

12:52 AM, November 08, 2007  

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Why You'll Never Be A Success With Women!


posted by Donovan at 9:03 AM

You know what?

You need so much improvement (and you know it)... I don't think you should even bother with learning new tactics for seducing, attracting and dating beautiful women.

Think about it...

If you need to come to this site, to learn these tactics -- THEN THERE IS NO HOPE FOR YOU!!

Think about this:
  • When has a woman last cuddled up to you?
  • Recently, have you kissed a woman that was considered beautiful?
  • Have you walked up to a woman at a bar, and gotten her number within 3 minutes?
  • When was the last time a beautiful woman called you?
Seriously, you're searching the internet for tips to help you out with women. How low is that?

Well, I have something to tell you.

I admire you just a little.

It was only one year ago that I was completely UNSUCCESSFUL when it came to attracting and dating women.

I couldn't even do the simple things like:
  • Know if a woman wanted to be kissed
  • Get a phone number from a woman within 2 minutes
  • Know when to hold her hand
  • How to tell if she was sexually turned on
  • Knowing if she was attracted to me at all
Now... I can go out, and meet and date hot girls. And it's all because I used to have what you have right now.

Desire and motivation.

I know you do.

You believe you've sunk to a total new low with women, and you can't figure out by yourself what's going on. So you're seeking help elsewhere...

You may even ask yourself questions like:
  • "Why are there some guys who just fall ass backward into the laps of beautiful woman after beautiful woman?"
  • "Why is there a guy who I'm better looking than, always getting more women than me? (And hotties too)
Can you get the information you're looking for?

The answer is "Yes!"

I'm going to insult you once more.

The reason so many guys are USELESS when it comes to attracting, seducing and dating beautiful women, is because they don't see it through. They only are willing to do something that won't get them out of their comfort zone. In other words, THEY JUST DON'T TRY!

They might be almost to a premanent solution... then they give up!

So whats the solution?

Desire and motivation!

You already have it, otherwise you wouldn't be searching online for it. Do you have what it takes to follow-up on it?

Ok, I'm going to level with you...

You need to get professional help!

It might cost you thousands of dollars in shrink fees. You're going to sit down with a doctor, and he will keep you coming back for months, with each visit costing you hundreds.


You can take my advice, of someone who was in your position, and do something you'd wish you'd done a long time ago. But guess what? (It doesn't even matter what you look like, its all personality)

I'm going to give you JUST ONE SIMPLE resource that will CURE you're problem of not getting the kind of women you want.

Although, I'm alittle hesitant.

You know why?

Cause you'll probably read it and say, eh, that wouldn't do anything. Well.... YOU ARE WRONG! Get your life together, and take the advice of someone whose been where you are right now.

Here is the golden nugget:

My favorite resource is called Double Your Dating. It's written by a man named David DeAngelo.

Guess what?

Even though I'm successful, I refer to it DAILY, still.... ONE YEAR LATER!

He covers everything you could possibly ever need to know. He goes through: the initial conversation, the secret to asking the proper way for a phone number, touching, conversational skills, using cocky humor, and sex. That's not it, he also goes INDEPTH into your mind, exposing weaknesses that are causing internal, negative thoughts that hurt your dating game. He makes you feel and act 110%, and for only $19.95.

When I first read the eBook, I was SHOCKED. I couldn't believe I held out buying it for over 4 months! Don't be a idoit like me, you wan't you're life handled, so HANDLE IT.

This is what he offers for the cost of a dinner and movie. (I'm NOT kidding, under $20, it's insane) He gives you bonus eBooks and audio...
  1. “Double Your Dating” The reference manual for how to be successful with women

  2. “Sex Secrets— How To Turn A Woman On, Satisfy Her In A Big Way, And Get Her To Do The Things You've Always Wanted”

  3. “The 8 Personality Types That Naturally Attract Women”

  4. “Bridges — How To Go From One Step To The Next... From The Very First Meeting To The Bedroom ”

  5. A free starter kit that includes two DOUBLE interviews from my Interviews With Dating Gurus monthly interview series

  6. A free month's subscription to my Monthly Interview Series
I wish I got all that when I bought mine. You lucky bastard!!

It's over $200 in value. And a limited time offer that I was made aware of.

You need to check it out, and decide by reading more about it on his official site.

I have one final thought to share with you.

After studying behavior for many years, I know one thing: If you don't make the decision to get this part of your life handled right now, there's a very very small chance that you're going to do anything about it in the future.

You know how they say that you can't tell someone how to get somewhere unless you've been there yourself? Well I've been there, and I'm going to show you the way. Think about it...

Click here to check out the eBook

Keep it real. And come back regularly for more posts on this website. I try to post new material almost everyday. Although if you want indepth help (which you will need) click above.

To your success, do your part and I know it will come to you,

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posted by Donovan at 9:03 AM Dating Advice for Men


Anonymous Anonymous said...

Interesting post, cut straight through my heart... but good points!

11:55 PM, November 01, 2005  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Sassy humour is something OLD
and not really invented by
David Deangelo. I now lots of
naturals who use it. I do not
know who deserves the copyright.
Maybe WHOLE NATIONS deserve the
My grandma was really happy with
the sassy humour of my grandfather.
They were a really happy couple....

3:01 PM, November 10, 2005  
Blogger Donovan said...

Yeah I don't think David D invented the concept of sassy humor, he simply gives a way for the "unnaturals" to learn how to use it. It obviously worked well for your grandparents :)

6:08 PM, November 10, 2005  
Blogger averagedrinker said...

some men really need to learn how to approach, love and handle a woman. sometimes even if they seem to chat often, i find out that some men from webdate are just plain ass-wipes. they don't know how to handle a owman. they can't keep up with the conversation and just focus on sex---and sex only.

5:06 AM, July 03, 2006  
Anonymous ChrisBe said...

David DeAngelo is brilliant stuff truely. For men that can relate with this blog I highly recommend it.
We shouldnt focus on who owns what.. the paramount thing is WHAT WORKS!!

THIS stuff is amazing for beginners.

6:19 PM, October 26, 2006  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Personally i prefer Mystery Method techniques to David DeAngelo. Mystery Method comes at it from almost an entirely different angle what most AFC's do, giving you the upper hand. David DeAngelo is still playing the same ball-game, just teaching you how to play it better.

3:50 PM, November 15, 2006  
Blogger DD said...

I will say, the DYD book is pretty good. Although I believe even at $20 it is over-priced, some guys will need to start spending money before they take the advice seriously.

I personally believe the information should be less costly, but that's just me.

Sarge on,

2:53 AM, January 07, 2007  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Im actually pretty good with women and im fairly young still (20 going 21)infact ive always been good, and ive always been complimented by them and most would say im good looking, come to think of it ive been called alot of sweet things. I have even had times when theyve approached me and given me their number without even asking them for it and sometimes even older women (by maybe a few years). I just wanted to say haha to all you guys who just suck with women and just dont have any masculine logic, or balls to walk up to women and talk to them. Now im not a tall jock alpha male, or rich or even caucasian(if it even matters im hispanic)by any means. But Ive always known what looks good on men and proper etiquete and a kind of sixth sense to understanding not only how women think, but people and society as a whole.. and My game is to combine them with my goodlooks and my university commerce educaion. My advice is to brand yourselves first gentlemen. become like a brand, stay true to your mission statement or your company policy (as would appear on an a corporate annual report) also implement proper tools and assets to stay in business, not only capital assets I.e clothes a new look etc, but also intangible assets i.e your personality or your marketing strategy(your mindset or in business terms your [intelectual property, in business this is marketing and research in progress, in the game terms i mean your mindset]). Think about why Prada is better than is better than Banana Republic, and at the same time beleive it. Ive read Neil Strauss book The Game and i thought it was excellent for the story and his adventure. His educational stuff was also entrigueing, through it I learned alot of mistakes I use to make and had made especially with my one-Itis .. Neil if you read this your a great man whom even I can learn from. Alot of what you said was sort of second nature to me already you just phrased it better where I couldnt in my mind, and at the same time you helped me see other things clearer where i was in a Haze. Youve done alot of other men out there a great service by writing it. Think about Adds and the ones that stay in your mind, they have a catch, there in your face and they 'command attention'(subliminal message there)..

8:52 PM, March 16, 2007  
Anonymous Prodigy said...

I wonder why you posted such a long winded responce 'anonymous' on a irrelevant website for you?

8:20 AM, April 12, 2007  
Anonymous ZM said...

Interesting post and comments. I'm certain there are males out there who are beyond even David Dangleo's help. (Try reading on Asperger Syndrome.) I'm still figuring out whether I'm one of them.

3:12 PM, July 31, 2007  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Many guys in the PUA community most likely have some kind of developmental problem where they can't model other peoples behaviour.

I have aspergers syndrome and had a really bad upbringing, that basically turned me into a coward and a wuss, I attempted on my life @ 17 years old and was afraid of both guys and GIRLS because I was like an adult and a kid all at once, and people in highschool I didn't get because I preferred intellectal and serious topics (i.e. poverty, war, etc) over communicating for rapport and fun.

I was a basketcase of negativity, many guys in the community are not "fucked up" they simply have a hard time processing social information and this stops them from building an accurate picture of themselves, the world and others.

You all should have a lot of sympathy for them because they were the guys you picked on in highschool and which you helped turn into people like Mr. Cho at virginia tech.

There's a reason I respect Neil so much is because he's been at rock bottom, and he understands implicitly what it's like not to see the social world.

9:40 PM, August 25, 2007  
Anonymous HOPELESS WITH WOMEN!! said...

I realise I will be attacked savagely for posting this, but I guess I am one of those AFCS, who has never had a girlfriend or any woman show any romantic attraction towards me.

I have tried to pick up women, but I always get rejected. Even the fat ugly women knock me back. But as I am short,bald and ugly, I have an excuse, as this has effectively written me off in the dating arena.

So, to those guys who are accomplished PUA's, good luck to you, I wish I had the guts and your ability, BUT please stop demonising us AFC/Nice Guys who cannot girls through no fault of our own.

Have a good day.

8:28 PM, October 26, 2007  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Look, I can relate to you on this because I've been there. But my take is that most of the time, the "AFC'S" don't get the sucess that they want because they aren't willing to do what it takes. I really recommend that you check out Double your Dating e-book. You may be sceptical but honestly, he has changed my life and in my opinion, he is the best PUA in the seduction community. Hang in there buddy.

8:00 AM, October 30, 2007  
Blogger Hot Alpha Female said...

Hey there,
There is one thing that i admire about guys that take the time and effort to learn about this stuff.

Firstly that actually recognized that maybe there is something that they haven't quite figured out yet .. and they are looking for more solutions to their problem .. if you want to call it that

N the one thing is that they are doing a favor for all the girls out there that want a NICE guy like who but who also understands attraction and how it all works.

The one thing that pisses me off, is guys that complain that they cant get chicks. But don't want to do anything about it, because they don't want to recognize that they are doing something wrong. That maybe they have to learn a new skill. Most of them get shitty and think that all this advice is useless and it leads to an unfulfilling dating life.

Well all i can say,is im a chick and after reading David D's stuff, i learnt more about myself then i could possibly imagine. N i would happily date a guy who has learned the skills that David D teaches and has mastered them

Hot Alpha Female

9:15 PM, February 13, 2008  

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