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Listening to Her Kiss To Explode Attraction


posted by Donovan at 12:52 PM

When you go in for the kiss, cup her face in both of your hands so that your palms are gently cradling her jaw line and your thumbs are just in front of cheek bones.

(You can also place your hands further back with your thumbs just in front of her ears if that's more comfortable for you.)

This allows you to contour her face and guide it where you want her to go.

This helps to avoid the possibility of kissing her too hard and too fast, which is akin to smacking her in the teeth.

C'mon, you know we have all done it. =D

In our rush to get the kiss we move too fast, or are unsure of our distance, timing and pressure and suddenly --- BANG!

Your loving lip lock turns into a less than exciting clash of the molars!

Now when you deliberately move her face in toward yours, I want you to look her in the eyes and slowly close your eyes as you gently bring her face to yours. I want you to touch her lips to yours as lightly as you can and I want you to sense and pay attention to several things...

This takes practice to get good at but once you do... She's yours!

Here's what you PAY ATTENTION to during the kiss:

--How much pressure is she using to kiss you?
--Is she pressing her lips hard against yours, soft?
--What kind of force is she exerting with her lips?

Also, notice the configuration of her lips for the kiss:

--Is she a fish kisser?
--Does she open her mouth very wide?
--Does she keep her lips close together?
--Pay attention to what she is doing to you!

Kiss her gently and allow yourself to feel how she is kissing you.

This is key! Don't focus on kissing her! Focus on how she is kissing you! (Ladies,
the same goes for you)

This is a concept I learned from "Tai Chi Push Hands" called "listening." Its the
ability to sense and interpret subtle changes in pressure and energy through your sense of touch -- in this case via your lips.

Here is where "listening" meets "projection" to create her perfect kiss! Here's how it works!

Remember, she already has an internal checklist of what a kiss is supposed to feel like for her. By paying attention to the way she kisses you then kissing her back exactly the same way, you validate her model how things work, demonstrate you are just like her and you perfectly fire off all the signals that tell her mind body and emotions its okay to go to the next level.

In hypnosis we would call this "pacing and leading."

Now Lets Sweeten the Deal a bit...

Once you have matched her particular style of kissing and you're effectively doing
it back to her the same way, you can start to direct her a bit more.

The act of kissing her the way she kisses you dramatically deepens the sense of
"connection" and "rapport" she is going to have with you. Continue to pay attention
to her responses. Think in terms of simply wanting to give her pleasure and paying
attention to her responses.

Once you have matched her kissing style you now have a couple of choices:

You can continue to kiss the way she does...


You can slowly begin to alter your method of kissing and see if she responds by
following you.

When she follows you by changing her way of kissing you now have more freedom to

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partner inside my home study course "Secret Orgasm Tips."

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The simple fact of the matter is that if you want to be a great lover and experience true sexual ecstasy with your partner, you need to pick this home study course up today.

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Friday Night


posted by Donovan at 7:30 PM

Hey guys, I'm writing to you before I head out for the night to meet some new fun women.

If you're not planning to go out tonight, disregard that, and GO OUT! Get some friends together, or go by yourself and approach atleast TWO women tonight. Don't try anything fancy just get out there, if your not planning on it. This will help you get on the way...

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Nice blog.

Any tips for the club scene?

Went out sarging with a couple of my buddies yesterday -- not too successful + Boston women love to give attitude (" mean I actually go to a club to meet..MEN??")


8:26 AM, March 11, 2006  
Blogger Donovan said...

Yeah mate, I headed out last night and I got two numbers. It was a fun night overall. Three things I learn't about dances/clubs.

1. Have no remorse - Don't let social pressure, pressure you out of approaching or influencing a group.

2. High Energy - Always be high energy, jumping from group to group, leaving them wanting more. Reach the social hook point, and leave them wanting more, and COME back, they seem like they'll respond better.

3. Social proof - Always go with women to clubs/dances. You'll get in quicker, and you'll always have some "girls" to go back to, and you wont look like that loser standing on the side of the dance floor.

p.s. In you're case, try some negs on em. Like "Are you ok? Not in your nice social mood tonight? Why did you come out? Miss Grumpy!" Then do another routine quickly, not waiting for a response.

10:44 AM, March 11, 2006  

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Sexual Awareness And Calibration


posted by Donovan at 6:58 PM

The ability to read a woman's physiology will often tell you where she is on the continuum of sexual arousal. (The same is true for men, except men are a little easier to read)

I'm such a believer in this one super master skill that if I could teach you nothing else but how to do this, you would still be a better lover than 99% of your partner's former (and future) lovers.

Why is this you might ask?


This is the difference between buying a car right off the assembly line, and getting one custom-built to suit your wants and needs.

You want to customize your lovemaking to suit your partner's wants and needs.

And you do this by: PAYING ATTENTION.

Ask yourself...

Does she quiver when you brush her on a certain place?

Does he start to breathe heavier when you kiss him on the neck?

Do her muscles tighten when you lick her somewhere?

Does he like to take it slow, or is he revving to go?

You must step back and notice these little tale-tell signs your partner gives you.
And once you find what is working...


If you want to learn all the cool little tips and tricks you can perform once you
have this skill down, then be sure to check out the special "Secret Orgasm Tips Home
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Use it wisely,

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Pick Up Artist Reality Show?


posted by Donovan at 10:43 AM

Courtesy of Asian Playboy...

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Good to see fellow strugglers

1:14 PM, March 08, 2006  
Blogger Donovan said...

True that.

1:21 PM, March 08, 2006  
Blogger Dolly said...

Hahahahaha. Looks better than all the other reality crap out there.

10:02 PM, March 08, 2006  
Blogger SwiftSpot said...

that looks frickin awesome! throw me on there...

11:08 AM, March 09, 2006  
Blogger Brian said...

Awesome. Where do I signup to be on the show?

3:52 PM, March 09, 2006  
Blogger Donovan said...

Mate, I wish I KNEW! That would be fully sick.

4:57 PM, March 09, 2006  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Average "Frustrated" Chump?
Average Fucking Chump.
These dudes need to buy me dinner and get me drunk immediately, so that I can 'feel sick' and go home, hopefully with their wallet.

2:34 AM, March 10, 2006  

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Neil's Latest Email: The Game Remains The Same


posted by Donovan at 2:50 PM

It was a delight speaking to Neil at the Las Vegas Mystery Method seminar. Great experience. It's always good to get emails from him:

I was talking to a writer who was working on a now-controversial story in this week's Village Voice about The Game. Part of it had to do with a blogger named Dolly who had read the book and caught a pickup artist using the lines in a bar. Later that night, she made out with him nonetheless.

So it made me think: I've received hundreds of emails from guys fretting that if the book or the community get too well-known, the game won't work anymore.

So I did some thinking about that.

First of all, everyone knows how to diet, but not everyone does it. Most of the people who read about these ideas and techniques won't actually put them into action. (Instead, they'll procrastinate by writing letters worrying about too many people finding out about the techniques.)

The fact is, the game will always work. It's just that some of the wording to the scripts may have to change -- and that's only for those who use the scripts for "training."

For example:

What's one of the most cliché pickup lines in the world?

The corniest, cheesiest one?

That's right: It's "What's your sign?"

If you walk up to a girl and say, "What's your sign?" she'll know you're delivering a rehearsed pickup line from some bad 70's TV show.

But guess what? "What's Your Sign" is almost exactly like the openers and DHVs (demonstrations of higher value) in The Game.

There was a point when "What's your sign" was not a corny way to start a conversation. It was a non-sexual opener: a means of breaking the ice with strangers without hitting on them. It was a current topic, exciting and interesting. (As Mystery once put it, the best subjects for conversations are relationships and the unknown.) Furthermore, it was a way of demonstrating value. Instead of saying "let's ball" (or whatever the lingo was at the time), you were showing that you were spiritual and had interesting knowledge to offer.

In the parlance of the seduction community, it was a neutral entertaining opener with DHV spikes built in.

And, sure, we all know it's outdated and cheesy. But isn't it extraordinary how a few minutes into seventy percent of all conversations with women, a discussion of astrology ensues? She'll probably ask you, "What sign are you?" And if you know a lot about astrology, it's actually a demonstration of higher value.

(Note to logical, empirical, factual men: Don't say, "I don't believe in that bullshit." Cynicism and negativity are two traits to avoid when meeting a woman, even if you think they make you seem "cool.")

When I was researching the book, I spent hours in Miami with a PUA named Maddash, who gave me a long tutorial on astrology. He taught me what all the signs meant, what the twelve houses were all about, how to identify astrological trends in people's lives, and how to determine sign compatibility.

Whether or not I believed in astrology was immaterial: I now knew a lot about it. And it made for great conversation, connection, and value when I was meeting people.

So the epiphany I had was: "What's your sign" STILL WORKS. It will always work.

Everything will always work. If people find out about it, all you have to do is change the way you say it and perhaps when you say it.

For example, if saying, "Hey guys, I need a quick opinion on something" telegraphs that you're delivering a pickup line because the women read about it in a magazine, no worries. Just change it to: "I need some quick help settling a debate." If opinion openers don't work anymore, save the question for later in the conversation. I already have three other types of openers I've come up with that I'm waiting for the right time to release. And if I can come up with alternatives, I've got a feeling YOU can too.

In the bigger picture, the thing that's important to remember is: There is no such thing as a pickup line. The language and wording don't matter. What's important is the intent behind them. The Jealous Girlfriend opener works not because it's the Jealous Girlfriend opener, but because it's a way to start an animated conversation with a group of people without hitting on anyone. So as long as you can always do that, you've got nothing to worry about.

Knowledge will not change the fundamentals of how women and men are attracted to each other. To make a bad comparison: Guys who like big breasts tend to be into women with fake breasts; it doesn't even matter to them that they're NOT REAL. They still flip the same attraction switches that natural ones do.

In the world of mating, perception is reality. And attraction, in the words of David DeAngelo, is not a choice.


PS Coming up next time: C-shaped smiles versus U-shaped smiles EXPLAINED. Yes, I've been reading your letters!


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Anonymous the commodore said...

I couldn't agree more..."saturation" concerns belie a misunderstanding of the real power (ie not pickup lines) or laziness...get off your ass and come up with some changes..adapt...overcome

8:27 AM, September 02, 2006  

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Approach Anxiety

posted by Donovan at 2:12 PM

Alot of anxiety can come from pickup, especially when approaching a woman for the first time.

Seriously. (Until you start talking to them, and you start feeling totally at ease)

It seems to me that as soon as you start to feel that tug in your stomach is when you should be approaching. Hence the 3 second rule.

But something inside of my head, disqualifies her, "She's probably a slut", or "She's too busy", or "I don't want to be rude and interupt her".

When realistically Mystery said, "It's a effing privledge to be hit on my a pick up artist."

He also said, "I hate the approach!" and, "It's the worst thing in life, but I love the ladies!"

So guys, it's a rather short post today. Get out of the comfort zone, start approaching, because the anxiety will never FULLY go away. It's there for a reason.


Learn to control the approach, and thrive off that MASSIVE TUGGING AT YOUR HEART STRINGS feeling. It will become addictive soon enough...

There are many resources for controlling the approach, such as the Mystery Method e-book, and Art of Approaching. Art of Approaching I've found to personally help me because it gives me numerous solutions to typical approaching problems, such as: situational openers, opinion openers, etc. It helps you to become dynamic and come up with your own instead of reling on "canned material".
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Attraction Magic Revealed


posted by Donovan at 10:03 AM

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Are You AFRAID Of Approaching Women?

posted by Donovan at 7:20 AM

I'd like to address a problem that is so common that it seems silly to even mention it...

It's the idea that too often we use our powerful minds and emotions to cause ourselves to FAIL with women rather than SUCCEED with women.

Fear of women can actually become a HABIT that leads to failure.

Let me ask you a question:

Have you ever been in a situation where you saw a woman that you wanted to meet, but you didn't go over and talk to her?

Duh. Of course... we all have.

This is UNIVERSAL. We've all been there so many times that the question doesn't even need to be asked.

But, the question I want to answer is "Why?"

Why is it that when we see a woman that we'd like to meet, we don't just walk over and start talking to her?

What is it that we're doing inside of our heads that is preventing us from just DOING IT?

Why do we prevent ourselves from being successful, when it would be SOOOO EASY?

And, an even MORE interesting question is:

How do we overcome this self- defeating pattern of thought and action?

I have one friend who I've seen get 25 phone numbers over the course of a weekend (I saw him get every one of them)... and all of them were from women that he had met on the spot.

Most of them took less than 5 minutes to get.

Now, I have many OTHER friends that can't even ask a woman for her number after they've talked to her a HUNDRED TIMES... and they KNOW she's single.

By the way, I have a LOT more of this type of friend...

So, what the hell is going on here?

Well, like most answers to questions like this one, the explanation and solution is both very simple and VERY complex.

The short answer is that most of us guys let our initial EMOTIONAL REACTIONS and our IMAGINATIONS keep us from taking action.

In other words, we see a woman we'd like to meet, we become nervous (for reasons we can't explain logically), we feel FEAR, we make all kinds of negative MENTAL IMAGES, and we finally just decide that it isn't worth it... so we just walk away.

But, isn't this CRAZY behavior?

I mean, it doesn't make any sense at all when you REALLY reflect and think about it, right?

Doesn't it make sense that we should just REALIZE that nothing bad is going to happen, and instantly change how we behave towards women?

Now that we KNOW what we do, shouldn't we be able to just walk out the door and start meeting women RIGHT NOW?

Well, yes... we SHOULD be able to do that.

But like I mentioned, there's an aspect of this problem that is very COMPLEX... and therefore not as easy to change quickly.

As any dog trainer will tell you, a bad HABIT isn't always easy to change. If you've been doing this for awhile, then it might take more than just some positive thinking to get this handled.

I read awhile back a fascinating book called "Mean Genes" that was written by a couple of evolution specialists (Terry Burnham and Jay Phelan).

Inside this book, these guys point out that humans are HORRIBLE at assessing risk and return, and that they often make horrible decisions for

But here's the kicker: We all make the SAME risk/return mistakes in the SAME situations... and this is most likely a GENETIC pre-disposition!

In other words, WE'RE BORN WITH IT.

So, you might see a woman that you'd like to talk to, then use your imagination to create some painfully scary ideas about how you might get rejected (which wouldn't happen in a million years), and then you feel a wave of fear and nervousness wash over your entire body... and you decide it's just not worth it, so you walk away.

This is that "automatic bad risk/return system" in action.

And often, these poor decisions cause us to say to ourselves, "Damn it. Why do I keep doing that? I'm a such a loser..." and we beat ourselves up even MORE over it.

As you know, these can become self-fulfilling prophesies and just make themselves BIGGER over time.

So, what's the answer?

Well, first you have to BREAK THE HABIT of making yourself feel BAD and AFRAID, and LEARN the habit of making yourself feel GOOD and OPTIMISTIC.

Remember, you've been doing things the way you do them for a long time now, so it might take some PRACTICE to be able to do this in the moment every time you need to...

Here are some action steps:

1) Take some time to vividly imagine the BEST possible outcome of walking up and talking to a woman that you find attractive. Every time you see a woman that you'd like to meet, just do this. Try it for a few days. Then realize that this BEST
outcome is far more likely than your WORST idea of what could happen. Read that again. Your BEST outcome IS FAR MORE LIKELY than your worst.

2) Make a "realistic" list of the worst things that could happen, then decide exactly what you'd do if any of them actually did happen. You'll realize that you can deal with them and live through it.

3) Realize that NOT taking the risk to meet a woman is actually a BIGGER risk in the LONG RUN of your overall life. If you risk NOT meeting her, you'll never know what might have happened, and if you let it become a habit, it will keep you from realizing ALL your dreams in life.

Think about it... in any given situation, YOU have the opportunity to make a "free bet": Your bet is you walking over and starting a conversation.

Possible loss: Getting turned down.

Possible gain: Use that creative imagination.

You do the math.

This is like going to Las Vegas and having a casino say to you, "OK, you can bet all day long as much as you want. If you win, you keep all the money. If you lose, you lose nothing."

Are you with me?

Use this concept to go out and overcome your habit of not talking to women. Do it now.

You can learn other techniques for improving your inner game, and controlling those negative thoughts in my famous 250+ page e-book "Double Your Dating" that will give you the confidence to approach any woman without fear of rejection.

Your friend,

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Comfort Building Dialogue


posted by Donovan at 5:12 PM

When entering the C1 phase of the Mystery Method, it's a good idea to start building more rapport. One such device you can use are comfort building routines.

Any time the chick smiles, you can run this routine. It's best used once you've established that you are cool, and that you are quite attractive to her.

"Hey... you know... you have three smiles."(usually, she'll smile in response to this)"and there's a fourth!"(she'll probably ask something, and then you improvise along the lines of the following)"Yeah, that was your 'I'm flattered' smile, and then you have a... um, not fake... but a polite smile... then there's this really genuine smile when you laugh, and your whole face lights up. Then there's this smug, 'hey this guy fancies me' smile. I've a feeling I might see that a lot."

Guaranteed to make girls fall in love with you. This is the sweetest thing anyone has ever told them. They will remember it and think about it when you are gone.

I think this might have been from Win A Date With Tad Hamilton, either way its great. Say the first bit, and then say you'll tell her the rest later... build some push/pull.

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Blogger The Spitkicker said...

Agreed. Comfort is very important. Most guys blow themselves out by trying to keep the seduction in phase A the whole time...a girl needs to connect with you, and being sweet after attraction is built is key....

I'm over at lets link up man :)

9:35 PM, March 05, 2006  
Blogger VanWilder said...

How sincere must the comfort stage be? If one attempts to build connection from routines and materials they are still learning, isn’t there issues of incongruence that can stall out the pick-up?

11:51 AM, March 06, 2006  
Blogger Donovan said...

Exactly. However, that's why you need to become process orientated and not outcome orientated so the material becomes congruent.

1:38 PM, March 06, 2006  
Blogger VanWilder said...

Whats the difference?

11:33 AM, March 07, 2006  
Blogger Donovan said...

The difference is, I want this girl, rather than I want to get better at my material.

1:40 PM, March 07, 2006  

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