How To Get The First Date

See, there are a lot of guys out there who don't have any problem meeting women and talking to them. But for some reason, they just can't quite keep the conversation going to a point where they're able to ask the girl out.

Let me make something clear: THE WHOLE POINT OF YOU MEETING A GIRL IS TO ASK HER OUT!

So if you fail to do that, then you've just wasted your time.

Seriously, unless you were just bored and looking to pass the time by chatting someone up, you've accomplished nothing.

Whenever you see a girl you want to meet, your goal should be to GET HER OUT ON A DATE.

Period.

End of story.

And in order to do that, you have to build a certain amount of trust and comfort in her before she will willingly give you her (correct) phone number.

I know guys who can get a girl's number within a couple minutes of meeting her. But the quality of that number isn't always the best. About 90% of the time, it's a fake number the girl gave him just to get away from him, and the other 10% of the time, the girl isn't interested enough to go out with him.

So going for the number too soon before you've created enough trust and comfort could dramatically lower your chances of seeing her again.

So here's what I recommend...

When you first meet a girl, it is usually a good idea to have at least 3 openers and 3 stories memorized that you can talk to them about. Be sure that the openers and stories are good, open-ended, and interactive conversation pieces.

Then, you're going to STACK them.

What do I mean by that? Let's break it down scientifically...

Let's say you have Opener A + Story A. You meet the girl with Opener A, which leads into Story A. As soon as Story A runs its course, you change topics with Opener B, which then leads into Story B. Then you repeat the process with Opener C and Story C.

See how that works?

In my experience, by the end of three stories, the woman usually feels like she knows you enough and is comfortable enough with you to want to see you again. THIS is the time to get her number!

I know that some guys might find this prospect scary, because this could be where she rejects you.

The thing I want you to remember at this point is that women KNOW when a man approaches them, they're interested in them. And if you DO NOT ask her for her number, she will assume you actually AREN'T interested in her, or don't have enough balls to act on your interest, and move on.

DO NOT FALL INTO THIS TRAP!

Even if you KNOW you're going to crash and burn with this girl, ask for her number anyway! That's the whole GOAL of the interaction, so if you're going to fail, fail all the way. Don't leave the woman you were talking to feeling like you didn't cross the finish line.

Remember: You're going after the DATE. Get it or die trying!

Here's the sequence I usually follow when getting the date:

1. Invite her out right then and there. Either I'll ask her what she's doing right now and if she wants to get a drink. If that's not convenient, I'll ask her if she wants to meet up later that night.

2. If she says "Yes" to meeting up later, I'll then ask for her number. If she says "No," I'll still ask for her number because I like her and I want to see her again.

3. Finally, I'll ask her when a good time to call is.

That simple 3-step process will get you a TON of dates.

Setting up the next meeting during the initial interaction is ideal. If you can't do that, get her number and try to set it up later.

Some guys say you should go for an email address instead of a phone number. I've had mixed results with this tactic. I still think the phone number is the way to go. Email has too many variables that aren't in your favor. What if she doesn't respond to your initial email? If you keep sending emails, you run the risk of looking desperate.

If you call and she doesn't answer, you can continue to call until you catch her. Once you get her on the phone and talking, then you can set up the next date. You can also ask her about email and Instant Messaging info. Usually, you want to establish "second contact" before going that route though.

In my book, The Art Of Approaching, I give you everything you need to know to successfully ask a woman out on a date, from reading her body language, to flirting, to creating trust and comfort, it's all in there. If you haven't picked up your copy today, you can do so by clicking on the link below:

http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/artofapproaching

And remember, you must always approach every girl with the intention of getting her out with you! Unless you do that, you're just wasting your time.

Wishing you success with women,

Joseph Matthews

Why You Keep Being Unsuccessful When It Comes To Women

Think about this:

• When has a woman last cuddled up to you?
• Recently, have you kissed a woman that was considered beautiful?
• Have you walked up to a woman at a bar, and gotten her number within 3 minutes?
• When was the last time a beautiful woman called you?

Seriously, you're searching the internet for tips to help you out with women. How low is that?

Well, I have something I need to confess to you...

I admire you just a little.

It was only one year ago that I was completely UNSUCCESSFUL when it came to attracting and dating women.

I couldn't even do the simple things like:

• Know if a woman wanted to be kissed
• Get a phone number from a woman within 2 minutes
  
• Know when to hold her hand
• How to tell if she was sexually turned on
• Knowing if she was attracted to me at all

Now... I can go out, and meet and date hot girls. And it's all because I used to have what you have right now.

Desire and motivation.

I know you have it!

You believe you've sunk to a total new low with women, and you can't figure out by yourself what's going on. So you're seeking help elsewhere...

You may even ask yourself questions like:

• "Why are there some guys who just fall ass backward into the laps of beautiful woman after beautiful woman?"
  
• "Why is there a guy who I'm better looking than, always getting more women than me? (And hotties too)

Can you get the information you're looking for?

The answer is "Yes!"

I'm going to insult you. (BE WARNED!!)

The reason so many guys are USELESS when it comes to attracting, seducing and dating beautiful women, is because they don't see it through. They only are willing to do something that won't get them out of their comfort zone. In other words, THEY JUST DON'T TRY!

They might be almost to a premanent solution... then they give up!

So whats the solution?

Desire and motivation!

You already have it, otherwise you wouldn't be searching online for it. Do you have what it takes to follow-up on it?

Ok, I'm going to level with you...

You need to get professional help!

It might cost you thousands of dollars in shrink fees. You're going to sit down with a doctor, and he will keep you coming back for months, with each visit costing you hundreds.

or

You can take my advice, of someone who was in your position, and do something you'd wish you'd done a long time ago. But guess what? (It doesn't even matter what you look like, its all personality)

I'm going to give you JUST ONE SIMPLE resource that will CURE you're problem of not getting the kind of women you want.

Although, I'm alittle hesitant.

You know why?

Cause you'll probably read it and say, eh, that wouldn't do anything. Well.... YOU ARE WRONG! Get your life together, and take the advice of someone whose been where you are right now.

Here is the golden nugget:

My favorite resource is called Double Your Dating. It's written by a man named David DeAngelo.

Guess what?

Even though I'm successful NOW, I refer to it DAILY, still.... ONE YEAR LATER!

He covers everything you could possibly ever need to know. He goes through: the initial conversation, the secret to asking the proper way for a phone number, touching, conversational skills, using cocky humor, and sex. That's not it, he also goes INDEPTH into your mind, exposing weaknesses that are causing internal, negative thoughts that hurt your dating game. He makes you feel and act 110%, and for only $19.95.

When I first read the e-book, I was SHOCKED. I couldn't believe I held out buying it for over 4 months! Don't be a idoit like me, you wan't you're life handled, so HANDLE IT.

This is what he offers for the cost of a dinner and movie. (I'm NOT kidding, under $20, it's insane) He gives you bonus eBooks and audio...

1. “Double Your Dating” The reference manual for how to be successful with women
   
   
2. “Sex Secrets— How To Turn A Woman On, Satisfy Her In A Big Way, And Get Her To Do The Things You've Always Wanted”
   
   
3. “The 8 Personality Types That Naturally Attract Women”
   
   
4. “Bridges — How To Go From One Step To The Next... From The Very First Meeting To The Bedroom ”
   
   
5. A free starter kit that includes two DOUBLE interviews from my Interviews With Dating Gurus monthly interview series
   
   
6. A free month's subscription to my Monthly Interview Series

I wish I got all that when I bought mine. You lucky bastard!!

It's over $200 in value. And a limited time offer that I was made aware of.

You need to check it out, and decide by reading more about it on his official site.

I have one final thought to share with you.

After studying behavior for many years, I know one thing: If you don't make the decision to get this part of your life handled right now, there's a very very small chance that you're going to do anything about it in the future.

You know how they say that you can't tell someone how to get somewhere unless you've been there yourself? Well I've been there, and I'm going to show you the way. Think about it...

Click here to check out the eBook

Keep it real. And come back regularly for more posts on this website. I try to post new material almost everyday. Although if you want indepth help (which you will need) click above.

To your success: you da man,

Donovan