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Why "Cocky & Funny" Attracts Women


posted by Donovan at 3:59 PM

Cocky & Funny technique with women, and you really liked the results? Would you like to learn how to MASTER the technique, and create SUPER attraction with women? If so, then I want you to take a minute and look at THIS:


I get a lot of email from guys who don't quite get the Cocky & Funny attitude.

It just doesn't make sense to some guys that teasing women, busting their balls, being slightly arrogant, not kissing up to them, etc. could or should make them feel attraction.

I can understand this because I was exactly the same way the first few times I heard it and saw it being used.

I kept thinking to myself, "If I do this cocky and funny thing, I'm only going to come across as arrogant... and that can't make women like me more."

Well, was I wrong.

You must always remember that ATTRACTION isn't logical. It doesn't follow the rules that it "should" follow. ATTRACTION is a very powerful emotion that has reasons and triggers that don't make any sense at first glance...

I'm sure you've seen many attractive women with guys who mistreat them, abuse them, and were exactly the opposite of what you'd expect a woman to accept.


ATTRACTION. In the beginning she felt attraction, and as bad as it may sound, almost no amount of being "bad", abusive, or jerk-ish can convince a woman, feeling a strong attraction to a guy, to leave.

So let me take the opportunity to talk a bit about the Cocky & Funny attitude, why it works, and how to use it to attract women (without having to be an abusive jerk).

First of all, you have to remember that the formula is Cocky PLUS Funny. Always both.

If you act too cocky, you'll only come off as arrogant and insecure.

If you're just funny, always telling jokes, and making people laugh, you will probably come across as "too goofy."

But if you use BOTH together, you will create magic. Cocky + Funny is like sparring... it's sport... it's fun... it's challenging... it's interesting when used with skill.

So let's get clear about what "Cocky + Funny" is.

Here's a cocky statement:

"Her dress makes her look fat."

Here's a Cocky + Funny statement:

"If she doesn't find a dress that fits better, the fashion police are going to send in the SWAT team for her ass."

Get it?

Start with arrogance, then add humor.

So why does it work to attract women?

Well, the short (email newsletter size) answer is:


Women are attracted to "alpha male" types - We all know that. Women are attracted to a sense of humor. We all know that one too.

Women AREN'T attracted to men who give away their power, kiss up to them, smother them with attention, act like whipped puppies, and get nervous just being in the same room with them.

If you meet an attractive woman, and IMMEDIATELY start giving her a hard time about something, busting on her, and having fun, it basically says to her:

"You are interesting enough to talk to, but you're going to have to do a lot more than just look good to impress me. Your beauty doesn't make me nervous in the least, I'm perfectly calm, and in fact, I'm so comfortable that I just noticed something about you that I'm going to make fun of..."

There is no faster way on earth to communicate all the right attitudes, beliefs, self-image, comfort, confidence, and power than to be Cocky + Funny.

(Except maybe to put on a perfect Brad Pitt costume.)

Once you start using this attitude, you will be totally astounded at the results.

Here's a low-risk example:

Next time you're at the grocery store in the checkout line paying for your groceries, say:

"So how much of this cash do you get to keep?" (as you hand her the money)

She'll probably laugh and say: "None... I wish."

To which you can respond with:

"Oh, I figured you were pocketing 10 or 20%... I assumed you were rich and could support me, but now I'm not interested... I want a rich girl." (Turn up your nose)

This is a great one. It's always fun to ask a woman if she's rich or famous, then when she says that she's not, tell her that it messed up her chances with you, and that you're not interested anymore.

One of the keys to the Cocky + Funny attitude is to never "crack." If she opens her mouth and gives you the "I can't believe you just said that" look, you need to turn it up a notch...

Most guys will crack and say "Oh, I was just kidding."

DON'T DO THAT! It makes you look like a wussy.

In the example above, if the checker looks at you and gives you the open mouthed "I can't believe you said that" look and says, "Hey! I may not be rich, but I'm nice!", you just look at her and say "Nice isn't good enough, I need RICH AND nice."

Your goal is not to upset a woman, but to get under her skin enough by teasing, busting on her, and acting cocky and funny so that it ignites the magical challenge/attraction mechanism.

And once you can see that you're getting a good response from a woman, GET HER NUMBER. Or get her email. Don't stand around like a dork trying to make her laugh.

As you become better and better with these tools, you can then begin "extending" the conversation... increasing the attraction... and taking things to the "next level".

So get out there and use it, because the magic formula of Cocky + Funny will create all kinds of good things for you. You'll see.

And if you're reading this right now and thinking to yourself "I really need to learn how to master this Cocky & Funny thing", then I AGREE!

In fact, learning how to be Cocky & Funny is one of the FASTEST, EASIEST, and MOST FUN ways you can make women feel ATTRACTION for you.

If you'd like to get a "fast track" education on Cocky & Funny, then I HIGHLY recommend that you check out my Cocky Comedy DVD/CD program.

This program features me and several amazing guest speakers teaching you STEP-BY-STEP how to master the technique... along with DOZENS and DOZENS of specific Cocky & Funny "lines" and "comebacks" for every situation you can imagine.

Go watch some of the preview video clips, and see for yourself how valuable this program is:


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Anonymous Anonymous said...

he's the one on the upper right (Niels) so the second circle to right is him.

9:46 PM, December 02, 2006  
Anonymous walortho said...

Some time ago. I went out with friends and I was off the hook with the cocky n funny. Boy was I having a good time. I was not talking about any thing in particular, But I was busting on one of the girls that was with us. For a moment I just knew that It was working on her, cause she was laughing and she playfully hit me on the arm. Later I noticed that when I toned it down a littie as we were having some drinks she rested her arms on my lap nice. its on.(COOL) But now I noticed that one of the girls in the group did not like it very much, but I thought about it. Okay, now this girl is married. Well could it be that the cocky n funny stuff works so good that the reason why this married girl did not take a liking to it be, That it was some how also working on her?? As David dee would say HUMMMMM.

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Pickup101 Instructor on Beauty and the Geek?


posted by Donovan at 8:59 PM

I've just heard that a Pickup101 instructor will be appearing on CW's Beauty and the Geek... he's one of these guys apparently... my guess is it's one of those two Asian guys...

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Blogger Donovan said...

The only one I find hot is the blonde in the middle.

10:03 PM, November 30, 2006  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm more of a fan of the blonde all the way on the left.

12:04 AM, December 01, 2006  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

The circled guy on the right with the water wings on is this PU101 guy...

...I'd probably do all of them.

The real question is: Could you tolerate any of them? Just for contrast, this show pics the stupidest women possible to make it more interesting for the geeks to tutor them. I wonder what it would be like to have a conversation with them.

10:31 AM, December 01, 2006  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It's Niels. He's listed as a pu101 instructor on their site. He's the part asian guy in the middle.


8:59 AM, December 06, 2006  
Blogger Sean said...

I dunno about this show, but when I was on a show, I found that at least half the women were really cool chicks who were there just to have fun and enjoy the whole goofiness of it, and were happy to play a role to make for better TV.

Don't take what you see literally. It's not reality. It's "unscripted drama."

But, y'know, scripted. :-)

1:41 PM, December 07, 2006  

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Loverboy's Tribute to Sarging (Video)


posted by Donovan at 6:55 PM

I posted this up on the blog about a year ago, but it was removed from Google about a month later. I think it's an awesome video signifying what can happen when you resolve to do something, and fix the situation your in! Kudos Loverboy!


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Anonymous Anonymous said...

this video is beautiful...getting dumped and then meeting the girl's new boyfriend on the way to try to get her back...what a fucking personal HELL. but the second part made me smile til my face hurts. Haha. Such an inspirational story.

9:20 PM, November 29, 2006  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It's a great video. The contrast is amazing. Just looking at Loverboy himself in the first half, you can just see how whipped he was. We've all been there and we can all relate, which is why this video is so loved by the dudes. It's a classic.

5:28 AM, November 30, 2006  
Blogger Praz said...

Yea, that's what I'm talkin about. His ex was beautiful, but so are a million other women.

8:32 AM, November 30, 2006  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

anyone knows how can I save this video to my computer?

12:56 PM, November 30, 2006  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Looks like Neil Strauss is up to no good again!!

Hot "On" the Press...On Top of Her Game -- Eileen Koch & Company (EKC) Blazes Into Cyberspace & Beyond
LOS ANGELES, CA -- (MARKET WIRE) -- November 21, 2006 -- Eileen Koch & Company (EKC), a full-service Public Relations Firm who has been successfully serving Los Angeles and beyond for almost two decades, is reinventing itself once again with an array of new clients, a thriving new attitude, and a serious web-makeover epitomizing it all! (

Recently partnered with international rock legend Vince Neil, Eileen Koch & Company co-created and produced Vince Neil's "Girls Girls Girls," choreographed and directed by dance-world icons Cris Judd and Eddie Garcia. Eileen Koch & Company has also entered into an exclusive development deal with Nash Entertainment, executive producing a theatrical release project on famed House With Bride creator Deborah Hale. Also in the works is the inspired new Reality TV show exploring the intricacies and absurdities of the Pick-Up world. Based on Neil Strauss' best seller "The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists," this undercover dating exclusive is sure to make for much Reality mischief!

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David Deangelo's Cocky Comedy Program (Video)


posted by Donovan at 2:07 PM

It's been too long for me to post these videos from Cocky Comedy.

I've noticed alot of men within the community, tend to overdo Cocky and Funny. That's why David released this, to help get the right formula.

Basically, cocky and funny is flirting. If you're insulting a woman. YOU'RE DOING IT WRONG. You need to fix it. Get this DVD set, it's great for flirting and generating crazy amounts of attraction.

David Deangelo Cocky Comedy Program

David Deangelo Cocky Comedy Testimonals
(Guys who were at seminar)

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Anonymous BG said...

I loved this thing for all the guest speakers. It's worth the buy just for them. They should've cut David out though, that shit was boring.

12:03 AM, November 29, 2006  
Anonymous bry said...

thanks for that, Donovan. I'm pretty insecure about all sorts of things, and I noticed that whenever I talk to an attractive girl, I'll try to be cocky & funny, but end up just insulting them and being a jerk. So I settle for the less attractive girls who don't intimidate me. Not very valuable or insightful, I know, I just wanted to thank you for addressing this topic since I think it's a big issue, probably most prevalent among younger/less experienced guys.

regards, and keep up the good work,

7:02 PM, November 29, 2006  

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Can You Program Yourself To Meet Women?


posted by Donovan at 9:41 AM

I'd like to talk a bit about how we program ourselves and become programmed when it comes to dealing with women... as well as how to overcome the negative programming that we often don't even recognize within ourselves.

Let me ask you a few questions. Take a moment to think about the answers... maybe even write them down.

1) When it comes to women, do you have an overall "positive" outlook towards your success? Do you believe that there is "abundance" when it comes to women, and that you can go out at any time and get a date if you want to? Why or why not?

2) Do you have any negative beliefs or programming when it comes to the idea of APPROACHING women you'd like to meet or asking women out on dates? Do you believe that you're going to be intruding or annoying a woman if you approach her? Do you
believe that a woman will most likely accept or reject a date request from you?

3) Have you CHOSEN the beliefs and attitudes that you have towards women, or have they been "chosen for you" by others, situations, programming, TV, the media, etc.?

4) Would you like to change some of the attitudes and beliefs that you hold in your mind? If so, which ones and what would you like to change them to?

If you're like most guys I know who would like to improve their success with women, then you probably have one or two "negative programs" in your subconscious mind (if you're like I used to be before I learned the things I know now, then you might have A LOT of them).

I can remember when I used to believe that women would be VERY offended or alarmed if I tried to strike up an unexpected conversation with them...

I can remember feeling that if a woman rejected me in front of other people that I WOULD DIE of embarrassment.

I can remember thinking, "Why would a woman find ME attractive?" And believing that the truly desirable, beautiful women out there just wouldn't find a guy like me interesting or attractive because I wasn't rich, tall, famous, buff, or of royal descent.

And as a matter of fact, even though I've spent literally YEARS reprogramming myself and learning as much as I could about women and attraction, I still know that somewhere deep in my subconscious mind this old programming exists. Of course, it
doesn't affect my behavior the way it used to, but my point is that once you program yourself or open yourself to programming from others and from our modern culture, it's sometimes a challenge to overcome that programming and go on to be successful.

Let me give you a little Tough Love:



If you learn how to meet and date the kinds of women that you've always wanted, it won't matter to anyone. Your friends won't think you're any cooler (well, maybe a little), your mom won't stop nagging you, your boss won't pay you more money, and you won't lose that extra 10 pounds that you've needed to lose for the past 10 years.

It just doesn't matter. No one cares.


And the only one that's going to be able to do anything about this programming that we're talking about IS YOU.

Your buddies aren't going to come over tomorrow night and say, "Hey, you know, I've been thinking about it. You really need to do something about your subconscious programming in the area of women and dating, and I'd like to help you."

Your mom isn't going to call you up and say, "You know, dear, I've been thinking about it, and I really put some bad ideas in your mind about how to treat women... I'd like to address those things in this call and help you become the mac daddy you've always wanted to be."


You're not going to get a call from the guys that run the ads that say, "Show her that you love her by spending five grand on a pair of diamond earrings" to tell you that the ads really aren't true and that no amount of diamonds will help you meet women if you're programmed to act like a WUSSY.

It just ain't gonna happen that way.

If you want to do something about your programming and your success, you're going to have to DO IT ALL YOURSELF.

Here, let me say that again... just in case you didn't get it...


And what's the best way to do it yourself?

This is a fantastic question...

There are a lot of ways to get it going, but I have a few favorites... and since we only have a little time together in this newsletter, I'll get right to the point...

1) Look around and pay careful attention to what's REALLY going on. Just like a comedian looks at the fine details and tells stories about things that we never see... but are right there in front of us, you need to look closer.

Here's a little story.

I was in Vegas awhile back for a visit. I hadn't been to Vegas in about 4 years, so everything seemed new to me... there were about 5 huge new hotels that had just opened, and I spent the day walking around and just seeing the sights.

As I walked around, I looked at the people... and especially at the couples. I'm not sure if it was because I was looking at all of the new sights or what, but for some reason I was really noticing a lot of little details... and I was paying
special attention to the couples that were strolling around on the strip.

It's always amazing to me how attractive women will be with guys of all shapes, sizes, and ages...

When you really look around and pay attention to what's actually going on, you'll be amazed.

And you don't have to be in Vegas to see this phenomenon yourself. Just go out on a Friday night and look around.

Now, before you say, "Yeah, but if you're rich or handsome or tall you'll get more chicks", I will acknowledge that these things can provide certain advantages, but they're not NEAR the level of advantage that WOMEN get from being physically attractive... not even close, actually.

The more I pay attention, learn and try things, the more I realize that women respond to PERSONALITY far more than they respond to LOOKS.

I've even made it a point to ask guys who are tall, handsome, etc., if they believe that their success with women comes from those things. Almost universally they tell me that their ATTITUDES and SKILLS are far more important than their looks.

I've also met a lot of tall, good-looking guys at my seminars who have INCREDIBLE problems meeting women. The more experience I have with this, the more I realize just how little LOOKS has to do with the equation.

You've probably read some of these newsletters where good looking guys write in and say, "I'm buff, good looking, and I have women talking to me all the time, but I can't get any dates... they only like me as a friend."

So, part of this step is for you to take a day or so and go out in public... to a place that is PACKED with people, and look around at the couples. Look with your own two eyes and see all of the attractive women that are with guys who are NOT what you would consider to be "physically attractive."

You need to see with your own eyes what's going on in the REAL world.

This is a big step in changing some of your programming.

2) Watch some guys who are successful with women.

One of the best things I've ever done is make friends with some REALLY SUCCESSFUL guys (I'm talking about success with women here). As a matter of fact, most of the techniques that I've learned, developed, and write about originally started out as something I got from friends by watching them interact with women.

When you watch guys who know how to make women feel that magical emotion called "ATTRACTION", you'll start to see the patterns in their behavior, and the patterns in the responses from women.

Nothing can replace watching a guy walk up to a woman, start talking to her, and walk away 5 minutes later with her number.

So make some new friends if you have to. Just do what it takes to watch some guys interact with women. It's a big one.

If you're at a point in your life where you're too busy with work, etc. to get out and meet guys who are successful with women, then do yourself a favor and get my eBook, Double Your Dating... that will help a LOT. It's here.

3) Stop looking for a "magic pill". Realize that you're going to have to CONSTANTLY learn and improve.

I know, I know. You'd like to take a pill and have this whole part of your life handled.

You'd like a computer chip implanted in your brain that will change you into a chick-magnet.

Well, until these things exist, you're going to have to do it the old fashioned way... you're going to have to actually DO SOMETHING.

At first, it might seem a little uncomfortable. You might feel weird going out to a bar alone just to look at the people.

But don't worry, no one will care (remember what I said earlier... nobody cares whether or not you're successful, only you do).

The more you improve, the more you'll WANT to improve, and the easier it will become.

Read books, try things, experiment. Keep a journal, write down what works and what doesn't, think about the things you'd like to change and write them down.


If you do these things, you'll begin to REPROGRAM YOURSELF and change your negative programming into POSITIVE programming and success.

Of course, the best place to start is with some of the materials that I've put together...

It took me years of trial and error to really figure out what works with women.

Repeat: It took me YEARS.

Years of trial and error.

I'm talking about trying out everything you can imagine...and having MOST of it NOT work.

Every time I found something that DID work, I took the idea, refined it, and wrote it down... then worked on it some more.

As you already know, I've taken all the stuff I've learned for myself and put it into the programs that I've created to help YOU learn this stuff much quicker and easier than I ever did.

One of the things I discovered while I was learning how to attract women, was that most men walk around with a DEEP INSECURITY inside.

It took me a few years to figure out something even MORE important:

That insecurity can't be fixed with "pick up lines".

And the reality is that it's MORE than just an insecurity issue...

It's actually that most men have never gone through the process of BECOMING a man who NATURALLY attracts women.

Oh, one more thing... if you haven't downloaded a copy of my online eBook "Double Your Dating", then what the hell are you waiting for? You can download it RIGHT NOW and be reading it within a few minutes. Go download it here:

And by the way, make sure and forward this email to a friend and encourage them to sign up for my free newsletter. They'll appreciate it, and I'll appreciate it.

I'll talk to you again in a couple of days.

Your Friend,

David Deangelo


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Anonymous DK2992 said...

It's so true. Nobody gives a shit about your success. Perhaps only your loving parents or siblings...

you gotta do it yourself, take action, score and win!

DYD is the bomb.

11:52 PM, November 27, 2006  

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Five Fundamentals to Get Girls Today


posted by Sean Messenger at 5:49 PM

(by Sean Newman, Pickup 101 Senior Instructor)

The dreaded death of mojo.

We all face it.

You wake up and the first thing you think is "I have to go back out there and do it again."

Doesn't matter if you've been picking up girls your whole life, or if you just started. The strong pull to do nothing never goes away.

Entropy. The tendency of ordered systems to fall apart and settle into inactivity.

Sloth. The desire to stay in bed and do, as we all learned from "Office Space," nothing. Absolutely. Nothing.

But the girls are out there. They are there every morning getting coffee, waiting for trains and busses, walking to work, walking their dogs, doing stuff. Commerce. Activity. Life.

And you know that when you are having a good day, it can be easy to just strike up that flirty conversation and spark something. We've all had at least one night, maybe with good friends at a party, or a bar you really like, when it seems like no thing to turn your volume up a little bit more and run your silly fun little lines on the cutie who catches your eye.

We all already have mojo. But we don't control when it's on, and when it's off.

What do you do on those days when your mojo is sleeping?

How do you wake it the fuck up?

Here's are the 5 Fixes I use to get myself going every day.

It doesn't matter how long you've been doing this or how good you are at it. Remember, the best pickup artists in the world don't even think of it as pickup. It's not something they do. It's just something they are, every minute, every day.

Do these five things, and you'll peg your switch to ON all the time, and you'll never let an opportunity pass by again.

1. Say Hi to people and give smiles every single day.

Simple smiles and greetings, especially in places where that is not expected, change the way you feel. When you talk, you are out of your head. And your head is a very comfortable, but lonely, place to be. If you're only motivation for doing pickup is to bust a nut, you'll never be happy. But if you can consider that being a nicer, friendlier person is a gift to others, it takes the pressure off you.

2. Flirt before noon.

I don't wait for Friday or Saturday night to roll around. I schedule visits to places every morning where I know I'll run into cute girls, so I can keep approaching and keep re-enforcing good habits and good results.

The nice thing about flirting with girls in the daytime is that all you need is one banter line, and you are almost always going to get a smile.

3. Walk, and walk with a purpose.

Be aware of your body language every day. If you catch yourself feeling nervous or stressed, get up and walk around. Force a smile onto your face. Breathe deep and slow. Get moving.

4. When in doubt, just make her smile.

Every passionate relationship begins with the man doing something to make the woman feel good. There are lots of ways to start this... banter and teasing, sexy eye contact, or absolute sincerity. If you get stuck, or in your head, stop thinking about it as a pickup, and set your goal just at making her smile. Be selfless. You are a gift you share with women.

5. Go back to basics.

Instead of trying to run a scripted 20-minute stack, just do the pieces. Go back to warmups like you learned in Art of Attraction. Stop cute girls and ask them what time it is. Willfully lose yourself in the city so you can ask directions.

And when you really need a karmic boost, go with the old standard sincere compliment.

"I know this is a little random, but I had to tell you that you are very cute."

Start it by acknowledging that what you are about to do is a bit unusual. This shows your social intelligence and puts her at ease. Then tell her just what you think. Every healthy man finds attractive girls cute. There's always something there that catches her eye. And you know she spends most of her time and money working on it.

So tell her. Be a man who makes his world better, and you will find the world making things better for you.

These five fixes may sound a little too basic. I know, you want the super-advanced magic words to make panties just melt right off her thighs.

The truth is there are no magic words. There are no shortcuts, and there is no new technology that makes girls want sex more than ever before.

There are only fundamentals, and guys who do them well. Make these fundamentals part of your daily routines, and watch your results, and your total happiness, skyrocket.

It's pure pickup karma. The more good you do for others selflessly, the more it comes back to you. Stop worrying about how to get her home that night or destroy her boyfriend or overcome her socialized resistance.

Do it for her, not for you. You will get more comfortable and more confident, and then when you see that smoking hottie across the bar and know you have to wade through a see of stalkers to get to her, you'll have your mojo running high and a real smile on your face.

Mojo makes you a superhero. Learn to build it and bank it, and you can do anything.

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