3.04.2006posted by Donovan at 10:52 AM
Joseph Matthews here. I want to share a story with you all that I thought was interesting.
Friday night, I was out with a friend of mine clubbing. As we were walking from one club to another, we saw two women walking together in front of us.
These women were HOT!
So hot, in fact, that every guy they passed by on the sidewalk tried to talk to them. How did they try this? By saying things like:
"Hey, where you going?"
"Damn, you fine!"
"Hey, come back here, baby!"
Needless to say, these girls were completely ignoring each and every guy who talked to them.
It's a harsh reality that most girls who are as hot as these two were get approached by men ALL THE TIME, and have heard every stupid line in the book. In fact, they get approached so much, that they don't even respond anymore. They're just focused on getting to where they're going.
So of course, upon seeing this, I thought to myself "How would I approach these girls?"
The answer was pretty self-evident. In fact, it was staring me right in the face!
The situation was dictating what I should say to them.
"Oh my god! Every single guy is trying to pick you guys up! How annoying is that? You guys need to hire BODYGUARDS just to keep all these horny waldos at bay!"
This is an example of a SITUATIONAL OPENER.
Situational Openers can be the best way to meet a woman if they are done right. This is because this type of Opener is UNIQUE to the interaction you are having with the woman.
Not only that, but it shows you guys have a common understanding of the reality you are mutually experiencing. And that, my friends, creates a connection between the two of you.
It's like knowing the punchline to a joke most others have no clue about.
And more importantly, this is one of my most favorite kind of situational opener, namely, the "Crash and Burn" opener.
This is a situational opener where you capitalize on other men's failures, while conveying the illusion that you are different from the other guys and are not looking to get into the woman's pants (even though the truth may be VASTLY different from that which you are conveying).
For example, anytime you are in a situation where there are women you want to approach, and you see a guy go up to them and try to hit on them, this gives you the chance to use the "Crash and Burn" opener.
Simply walk up to the girl, and comment on what the other guy did wrong.
Saying things like:
"So, how'd he do?"
"Did it hurt? He was hitting on you pretty hard. Did it hurt?"
Or anything along those lines will open up your target for conversation. These types of "Crash and Burn" openers work great in high stimulus environments where girls are being hit on (like bars and clubs, for example).
So next time you see some poor schmoe strike out, be sure to take the opportunity to capitalize on it!
You can find out more about the "Crash and Burn" Opener, along with other Situational Openers in my ebook, "The Art of Approaching: How to meet ANY Woman, ANY Time, ANY Where you may be."
You can download the ebook right now at:
Art of Approaching Link
Until next time!
posted by Donovan at 10:52 AM Dating Advice for Men