12.30.2006posted by Donovan at 2:14 PM
Lance Mason's guide for New Years:
Let's face... no guy wants to be alone on New Year's Eve.
There's nothing worse than standing alone by yourself at Midnight while everyone else around you is kissing, and if you've been studying PickUp 101 Material, it should NEVER happen to you.
And I've got a little known secret to tell you... New Year's Eve is one of the best
nights of the year to hook up.
This is the ONE NIGHT that it's finally 'okay' for women to act out on their romantic and sexual desires. So don't let that special someone (or those special people!) down this holiday season.
I put together this Guide to Hooking Up New Year's Even to help you as you head out to one of the biggest celebrations of the year.
And remember the single most important thing is to have FUN!
Tip #1: Have transportation home planned.
Don't underestimate the power of a designated driver and one empty seat on New Years Eve. I don't know how it is in your town, but in San Francisco getting a cab on New Years from 2 to 3 a.m. is next to impossible.
Having a ride planned out gives her an easy excuse to ditch her friends and catch a ride with you!
Tip #2: Pick a large venue and stay there.
It's better to go to one big party the whole night then to go to several small parties over the course of the night. As the night progresses, things tend to favor those who have been the most social all night.
Women you flirted with earlier will come back to talk to you. Even the people you haven't talked to will start to recognize you as one of the more social people in the room.
This helps tremendously, and is all lost if you jump from party to party.
Tip #3: Have a goal in mind.
Are you looking to set up a bunch of dates for the New Year, to get a girlfriend, or to just have fun and hook-up for the night? It's worth mentioning that if you don't know what you are looking for you won't know when you have found it.
Tip #4: Countdowns are for wimps.
If you have a girl attracted to you and have been talking to her a while DON'T wait till midnight to get the kiss. If she likes you then practically any line works here. You can look at your watch and say, "Damn, it's only 10:30!".
Then pause and say, "I'm not waiting" and go in for the kiss.
You can even (*very* deliberately) set your watch forward (or backwards) to Midnight in front of her, give her an innocent "Oh I guess I'm supposed to kiss you now" look and go in for the kill. All done calmly with a smile, a sense of humor, and a "take it or leave it" attitude.
Once you've gotten to that point, keep escalating. Usually I say "Never fully make
out in a bar", but tonight is different.
It's New Years Eve! Go for it!
Tip #5: Hang out with the cool kids.
No matter what your age, only go out with cool friends who will support your goals.
Remember, women *will* judge you by your friends. If their are people in your life
who aren't quite up to par with you socially, this is the wrong night to spend time with them.
On the other hand, if you can go out with your best 'wingmen' definitely do it, it
could very well have to do more with your success then where you go.
By the way, I'm not just talking about wingmen here. Other single girl 'friends' and
couples can help you as much as (or even more then!) your male friends with game.
Tip #6: Don't overdo the banter!
I affectionately call New Years Eve amateur night.
I don't mean to disrespect anyone with that statement - I'm just trying to accurately assess what makes meeting girls on this night different. Clearly one of the biggest distinctions is that this is the one night where EVERYONE goes out.
Frankly, many of the people you'll see out drinking, dancing, and hooking up haven't
been out all year.
And I not just talking about guys either.
Many of the hot women you'll meet on New Years hardly ever go out. This is especially true with the most successful, most attractive women since they are often too busy working on their career and their bodies to hit the bar every weekend.
The end result is that many desirable women out on New Years are much less exposed to the attraction techniques we teach.
That means you probably need a lot *less* of your attraction techniques then normal.
Remember, once a woman likes you, you need to move into rapport, escalate things
physically, or risk losing her interest.
After all, women want to hook up on New Years as much as we do, and once she likes you she's thinking "What's next?" If you answer question with more entertaining stories or harmless flirting she is likely to lose interest.
In this environment whatever skill you have will be much more effective.
Now these women aren't that easy to spot. Unlike the guys who rarely hit the singles
scene, these girls know how to dress, how to socialize, and usually even know how to
So take it easy with the attraction techniques and escalate early, you won't need
as much as you might think.
Tip #7: After you make out with a girl, figure out the logistics ASAP.
If you want to bring a girl home with you, you definitely don't want to wait too long to broach the subject. If you are going to meet lot's of resistance, it's better to know that early on while you can still move on if you choose. If you wait till the end of the night you could miss out.
Find out who she is with, what their plans are, and what commitments she has sooner
rather then later. Is she driving anyone home? Is anyone planning on giving her a
ride? Is she there with protective friends or relatives that you might have to make a good impression on?
These are all questions I like to get to the bottom of right away after a little new
year's kissing. No waiting required.
The after party is at your house, right?
So all you need to do is say, "Hey, we're having an after party later, did you guys all come together?" Her answer will give you an early indication of what the chances of her coming back with you are. If you do this early in the night, you are not looking for a "Yes", just a "maybe" and some more information about what the logistics are.
Tip #8: Keep an eye on your target
I'm a big fan of "takeaways" (also known as giving girls "the gift of missing you") but I am real careful using these techniques in extremely chaotic environments.
If you've found the girl you *really* want, keep an eye on her!
Leave her for a second and you may lose sight of her. Lose sight of her, and she could be lip locked with another guy by the time you find her again.
Trust me even after you've met another girl, you'll still think about the one that got away.
Tip #9: Have fun!
Don't work so hard on your game and push your goals so much that you forget to have a good time. Being the funnest guy in the room will do more for your night, and your results, then all the other tips combined.
posted by Donovan at 2:14 PM Dating Advice for Men