10.22.2005posted by Donovan at 9:29 AM
I'm here to warn you.
You're making a terrible mistake.
It's a mistake you're probably making that is destroying your success with women.
And you know what the worst thing is?
YOU PROBABLY DON'T EVEN KNOW YOU'RE MAKING IT!
Do you know what it is?
Like most of the big mistakes out there, its so simple, you're going to go "duh" when you hear about it.
I'd like you to imagine for a moment...
You're out on a Friday night at your favorite place, and you see a drop-dead beautiful woman.
Seriously, this is the type of girl you've been searching your whole life for.
Instantly, you get that nervous feeling in your gut.
Things start racing through your mind, like:
- What do I say to her?
- What if she's here with other people? What do I do then?
- What if I get rejected?
- What if people are watching me and I fail?
Things seem to go well, until you ask her for her number, at which point things go wrong.
Maybe she doesn't give you her number.
Or maybe she does, but it's a wrong number.
Or maybe it's the right number, but when you call her up, she doesn't remember you or doesn't return your calls.
Does any of this sound familiar?
If it does, then...
YOU'RE MAKING THE MOST DANGEROUS MISTAKE THERE IS WITH WOMEN!
When I say "Dangerous," I mean it's the type of mistake that can absolutely BLOW any chance you have out of the water and leave you crashing and burning in the long run.
Do you know what it is?
The most dangerous mistake you can make with approaching women is:
FOCUSING MORE ON YOURSELF THAN ON HER.
(See, I told you it was simple)
Most guys who do this don't recognize they're doing it, or even that what they're doing is WRONG.
That's because it's very easy to focus on yourself instead of others.
When you get that nervous feeling, it's easy to just think about that. When you see a girl you like, it's easy to think about what you should do to meet her. When you're talking to a girl, it's easy to just focus on what you should say next.
But it's the easy stuff that will usually lead you astray. Let's go back a little bit...
Let's say you're out on Friday night at your favorite place again. And you see that drop-dead gorgeous woman.
Now, instead of focusing on that nervous feeling in your gut, you focus on her!
Is she alone, or with friends?
Does she look bored?
Does she look drunk?
Is she smiling?
Does she look like she's attached to any of the people she's with?
Is she wearing a wedding ring?
Focus on her, and observe as much as you can.
When you approach her and start a conversation, continue to pay attention.
Does she look interested in what you have to say, or is she just humoring you?
Look at her eyes. Do her pupils dilate as you talk to her?
Does she touch you at all while talking to you?
Does she play with her hair at all?
THIS IS THE KIND OF STUFF YOU NEED TO PAY ATTENTION TO!
There's an old saying that goes "Don't listen to what people say, it's what they do that reveals their true intentions."
You may not be able to figure out what a woman wants based on what she says...
But you CAN figure out what she wants based on her BODY LANGUAGE.
Body language never, ever lies.
That's why if you can learn to focus your attention on your target instead of yourself, you will be able to avoid heartache and rejection!
You'll be able to tell when what you're doing isn't working, and when you're wasting your time.
You'll also be able to tell what you're doing right and when to make your move!
In the book, The Art Of Approaching, the author goes into great detail about how to read a woman's body language.
It's a secret most men don't know about, but that all the best ladies men do.
And you can do it too!
If you know how.
If you haven't picked up that book yet and learned how to do this, then you're going to keep making the same mistake over and over again.
Seriously, why deal with all that let-down and rejection that comes with striking out?
You don't LIKE rejection, do you?
Of course not. I recommend Art of Approaching for getting rid of this mistake and others, you can check it out on the link below, or even follow that link and ONLY sign up for the free newsletter.
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Soon, you'll be able to avoid that dangerous mistake and start
enjoying real success with women everywhere!
Wishing you success,
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posted by Donovan at 9:29 AM Dating Advice for Men