10.18.2005posted by Donovan at 11:41 AM
I want to share an observation with you.
Have you ever noticed that too often, men are willing to go against what they think, feel, and believe because there is a woman available to them?
And the thing is, the men KNOW that what they're doing is going to turn out badly, but they do it anyhow because they want to be with a girl in some way.
By the same token, many men are willing to let the women they're with walk all over them and treat them like crap because they're getting sex out of the deal (if they're lucky, anyway).
Us boys have a name for this behavior.
It's called being "whipped."
We've all had a friend at one time or another who's suffered from this condition. He's a cool guy, a good friend, but suddenly he meets a woman and he can't go out drinking because he's gotta pick her car up from the shop or take her kid out to the park, or whatever task she has assigned him.
And it's not the fact that she needs him to do things for her, it's the fact that he gives up any sense of what his life was in order to please her.
The problem that comes from this situation is that the guy often not only loses the respect of his friends, but also the respect of the woman he's with. The very person he's trying hardest to please begins to resent him and take him for granted.
This is why having rules and standards is important.
It comes down to a matter of SELF RESPECT.
People who have no code, no rules by which they live their lives, no standards by which they hold themselves up to, are weak people. They look for others to give them an identity, to give them a purpose.
But having rules and standards allows you to define who you are and stand on your own two feet. People who know what they are, and are not willing to do, garner respect from others.
Most unhealthy relationships stem from the problem of weakness in one of the partners.
Typically, women want a dominant man in a relationship. And when I say dominant, I DON'T mean the ball-gag, chains, and leather whips kind-of dominant. I mean a guy who takes control of the relationship and is a source of strength for the woman he's with. A man who makes her feel safe and eliminates uncertainty from her life.
But the woman aside, it's more about making YOU happy. It's about having respect for yourself and what you want out of life.
If you have a certain type of woman you want to be with, don't lower your standards just to get laid or whatever. That's not respecting yourself. Go after the type of woman you want instead of settling for what you can easily get.
You'll be happier that way.
If you have a rule where you don't want to date single moms because you don't want to take care of someone else's kids - or whatever your reason may be - then don't do it! If you meet a girl, but she's a single mom, stay true to your rule. There's a reason you made it a rule in the first place, right?
In the end, having rules and standards makes you a more attractive person, because it conveys confidence and conviction, two traits women always find attractive in a man.
And as you know, women are complicated beings, and it seems most men are clueless when it comes to dealing with them!
So let me ask you this...
If you have more questions about how to be successful in your lovelife, what would it be like to have all those questions answered and enjoy attracting the incredible women you've always
- Maybe there's a girl you want to meet?
- Maybe there's a girl you want to take out on a date?
- Maybe there's a girl you just want to sleep with?
- But how do you DO all this with the women you want?
Well fear not, my friend. Because answers are here. And with answers, come hope.
Listen, we all know what it's like to struggle with women. Sometimes you're too afraid to meet them because you don't want to be rejected. Sometimes, you're afraid to ask them out because you don't know what to do on the date. And sometimes, you might even be afraid to "close the deal" because you don't know what to do in the bedroom!
All of your problems can be solved with one thing and one thing only...
Knowledge and the will to apply it!
In my time learning to be successful with women, I've gotten to meet some of the best dating experts in the world! And they've taught me some amazing secrets to their success with the fairer sex.
But after a seeing how incredible this information was they were sharing with me, I started to feel guilty.
Guilty that I was privy to all this fantastic advice, and no one else was!
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What would it feel like if you could walk up to any woman you want, without fear, and easily strike up a conversation with her?
What would it feel like if you could go out on a date, confident that it was going to end the way YOU wanted it to?
What would it feel like to be so amazing in the bedroom, you've literally got women BEATING DOWN YOUR DOOR to be your willing love slave again and again?
When you literally FEEL that kind of confidence around women, you won't even have to work at getting them! They'll be the ones trying to get YOU.
That's not a lie my friend, nor is it marketing BS. That's the truth.
The great thing is that you CAN feel that way. You can walk through life powerfully, without fear of rejection, enjoying success with beautiful women, despite your looks, social standing,
or bank account.
It is possible, if you're willing to learn.
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But it's not for everyone.
Some guys just aren't ready to learn these secrets. They just simply aren't ready for them yet.
If you're afraid of hard work, are lazy, or don't want to change how your life is currently like, then take the information you recieved from this blog and happily store it away on in your mind.
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Thanks for stopping by, and good luck my friend,
posted by Donovan at 11:41 AM Dating Advice for Men