11.16.2005posted by Donovan at 12:12 AM
Have you ever heard that old familiar lament:
"Nice Guys Finish Last, Jerks Get Laid?"
At first glance, it would seem that is true.
There are a lot of Jerks out there who are able to attract tons and tons of women.
And there are a lot of Nice Guys who struggle with getting girls, and feel frustrated.
After all, who wants to have to be a jerk in order to get women?
Here's the thing...
YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE A JERK TO GET WOMEN!
You just have to change a few things you tend to be "nice" about.
1. Social Restrictions
We tend to believe that there are "acceptable" and "unacceptable" things to do around women.
And while this is true to some extent, Nice Guys are often wrong about the limits of what is acceptable.
Like being sexual around women. Many Nice Guys believe this is "inappropriate behavior."
But that's wrong!
Being sexual around a woman is a very powerful way of communicating your interest in her.
Little things like flirting and joking about sex can go a long way into making you a potential lover instead of just a potential "friend."
2. Inability To Act
Too often, "Nice Guys" wait around for the girl to make the first move to initiate romance.
This is a DEADLY mistake!
Women take their cues from the men they're with. If you want to escalate into a physical relationship, you have to be the one to make the first move.
This can be scary. It's possible to get rejected.
But if you don't do it, you won't succeed!
Actions speak louder than words, and if you allow yourself to act and go in for a kiss, or not be afraid to touch her, then you communicate all the right things...
Things like aggressiveness, confidence, and sexuality -- all things women find irresistibly attractive!
3. Diarrhea Of The Mouth
Way too many Nice Guys like to talk about boring stuff.
They do nothing to captivate the girl. Their stories don't inspire romance or attraction.
In short: Nice Guys are neutered!
The real trick with women is to be playful! Have fun with them!
Have a good time.
Show her a little bit of attention instead of focusing on yourself -- but don't take yourself for granted either!
If you just talk, and talk, and talk without knowing what you're saying, you're going to bore the girl you're with.
And girls who are bored with you will not be attracted to you.
If you look at the three points above, you can see that the Jerks who get all the women do these things.
BUT, Nice guys can do them too, and not have to act like a complete horses ass to do them!
You can still be the Nice Guy you've always been, but just change three simple tactics and see a drastic improvement in your success with women.
Here's a recent success story I got from a Nice Guy who followed my advice...
NICE GUY SUCCESS STORY>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
Dude, your stuff works!
I went out last night and took the lead much more. Also, thinking of what you told me, I pressed forward on every sexual innuendo opening that popped up. It is amazing how quickly girls opened up.
I ended up talking to this guy and the two girls with him about hotel porn and the fact that everybody, including women watches it (something I'd never thought I'd talk to women about before).
We talked about Michael Ninn and porn with real storylines and started dreaming up porn careers for ourselves.
Anyway, long story short, when they closed the club we ended up at his place nearby; nice and big with a Japanese garden.
We joked around and the girls did stupid dances to the indian electronica that was playing and eventually at like four am we paired off.
I just got back!
That is the quickest result I have had yet and it was fun to be so open. Thanks!
R. (recovering Nice Guy)
If you want to have really effective successes and turn your luck around, you really need to read my book The Art Of Approaching.
This information is truly LETHAL stuff.
The Nice Guy above emailed me a few times about his problems, and I gave him the EXACT SAME information I just gave you.
And look what it got him!
Listen to Uncle Joseph, I don't steer you wrong!
If you don't start applying the strategies in my book, you'll have to be happy with what you're getting right now.
But if you can imagine going out to meet women armed with the "secret weapons" I give you that can help boost your confidence and get beautiful girl after beautiful girl to date you...
Well, I'm sure you're starting to realize the possibilities. =)
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posted by Donovan at 12:12 AM Dating Advice for Men